What would you give up to achieve your dreams and goals? It's a question we inevitably ask ourselves at some point in our lives. However, most of us give up on our dreams the moment we hit adulthood or fail to make the necessary sacrifices required for what we think will yield a better life. But it's never too late to change.
Here are 10 things you should give up if you wish to achieve your goals and dreams.
There's a reason Nike's iconic "Just do it" slogan has been so popular over the years. Nike is a brand synonymous with high-achieving athletes, who got to the top of their field because they practiced every single day. And the same applies to any discipline, be that sports, writing, music, acting. We can all talk about our potential for greatness and what we could achieve, but if we don't master our craft we are never going to improve.
You see, for every Michael Jordan and Lionel Messi, there are countless other athletes who grew up with a similar level of talent but didn't have the drive Messi and Jordan did. After all, talent will only take you so far. So quit imagining what you could be and work towards what you will be!
We all do it. In bed. On the toilet. At work. On our commute to and from work. It's hard not to. Escapism, be it through tv, film, literature or even daydreaming, is innate in us all. No matter where you live in the world, life can be hard at times, and it's easy to stick to our day to day requirements before we indulge in another Netflix series. But if you want to achieve something that puts you above the mindset of the everyday 9-5 commuter, you'll have to drastically change your routine.
For a start, you should limit your time on devices which enable most of your procrastination, such as iPhones and laptops and spend a couple of hours doing something productive. So if that's painting, then set aside two hours each evening for the craft. It's really not that hard.
3. Comparing yourself to others
It's natural for most people to doubt themselves and look at the achievements of others and feel intimidated. But this "Little old me" persona serves no purpose other than to lower your confidence.
Remember, we are all equal. You may not have gone to the best school in your city, or come from a wealthy family, but you are just as capable as any Ivy League graduate or self-made billionaire. The sooner you realize this, the better equipped you will be going forward with your goals.
4. Thinking you are destined to fail
Having an inferiority complex does you little good. It may even seem natural to humble yourself to the point where you don't even feel comfortable acknowledging the positive aspects of who you are. But it's not vain to celebrate your strengths, and by no means is it self-aggrandizing to make sure you become the best version of yourself.
The greatest minds in the world aren't necessarily the most confident. But they have an ardent self-assurance in their abilities, which has helped them get to where they are.
5. Playing the victim
Whatever is going on in your life, it won't help your cause in the long-run to play the victim. Everybody you meet on a daily basis is likely experiencing some kind of personal issue, whether that be heartbreak, the loss of a family member, financial issues or even a mental health problem.
Yet those who have risen to the top haven't let these plights get in their way. In some cases, these factors served as a motivator.
Do you really need to socialize more than once a week? In Economics, free time is determined by a thing called opportunity cost. A graph is often used to illustrate the tradeoffs we make in our lives. More often than not, we give a lot of time to our work commitments, and our leisure time is significantly reduced, which is why it's imperative you use it wisely and don't let distractions rob you of it.
Instead of going out with your friends simply because you feel bored, focus on yourself and question where you want to be in life. Will going out help you with your goals? Probably not.Investing in your free time is investing in yourself. Doit wisely. Open a savings account. Put some money in a few share options. Write that screenplay you've always wanted to do but never got round to it because you can't be bothered. You don't have to eliminate your social life, but you don't need to be social butterfly either.
7. The need to be liked
Nobody is universally liked. People have preferences, and you're never going to tick the boxes of every human being on Earth.
Some will tolerate you, others will take a shining to you, while some will probably criticize you. Others may even loathe you, so there's little point trying to please everyone. Focus on yourself, regardless of how you think it will impact on your standing with others.
8. Saying yes all the time
Tieing into the previous point, most of us are natural people pleasers. We like to keep people on our sides and avoid confrontation at all costs. But if we constantly cave into our friend's demands, and always say yes to social invitations, you'll exhaust yourself and never have time for anything else.
Exercise that inner-no. We're so often told to embrace every aspect of life and go with the flow, but sometimes, it's best to listen to our hearts.
9. Not seeking help
There's a reason high achievers surround themselves with others. The most successful recognize early on that they need the input and intelligence of other people to help improve their own concepts and ideas.
You are not weak or stupid for asking for help. But wasting your energy and shunning others is simply weakening your potential.
10. Waiting for inspiration to find you
While you can look for inspiration in a variety of places, there's no better way to ignite it than by getting to work! You might be waiting for that million dollar idea in your dreams, but in reality, you're only going to get somewhere if you walk the walk.
To become a high achieving person, you need discipline and strict habits. You need to get to a point where you feel compelled to continue the routine not because you think you have to, but because you want to and feel lost without one. You should be doing something you love. If you don't, you should probably evaluate your goals and passions and entertain the idea of doing something else.